8susanawalsh July 28, 2009 at 5:15 am I'm not looking to change the greater culture. I'm looking to give women a strategy for effecting positive change in their own individual lives. I guess it's fair to say that the Sexual Revolution did indeed unleash anarchy. It changed the expectations of men, that's for sure! All a woman can do is redefine those expectations as they are applied to her. That is all that is under her personal control. Perhaps there will be few men who are willing to be in a relationship in order to have sex with her, but it's the only card she's holding.
9susanawalsh July 28, 2009 at 5:18 am reality, I've left your comments up here for the sake of frank discussion, but let me say that your snarky tone is unnecessary and unpleasant. You hide behind your online anonymity to express your anger and bitterness toward women. Change the attitude. You might just find that you get further that way.
10Martin November 11, 2009 at 8:53 am Honestly it isnt that simple. You should respect the sexual freedom females have fought so hard for in the west higher. If you look at the world you will find a pretty strong correlation between sex is extremely limited outside marriage (supply is low), something like Afghanistan or Northern India, and places where being a female is something really depressive. This correlation is even true if you go back in the history of the US, in the fifties, yeah females probably waited longer for sex after a date but overall their lives was defiantly worse. Of course correlation doesn't imply causation but it is food for though. The main reason “for the hookup culture” compared to a place like Greece in the sixties is that females today actually have the freedom of choice, and I am sure it has made them happier overall.
(oh and I mainly wanted to attack that worthless sociobiology quote with this post )
11susanawalsh November 12, 2009 at 4:48 pm Hi, Martin, thanks for leaving a comment. OK, I get it that you are not on the evo psych bandwagon. I do respect and appreciate sexual freedom for women. I also agree that in countries where women are oppressed, the supply of sex is low outside of marriage.
In the US in the 1950s, one could argue that the quality of life was lower overall, I suppose. Women certainly had fewer rights, and now enjoy something pretty close to equal opportunity. With that opportunity comes responsibility. If you are a woman who wants casual sex, it's all good. The supply is endless. However, if you prefer relationship sex to casual sex, you would be wise to hold off until you are in a relationship.