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Aldonza says: August 12, 2010 at 12:08 pm @Chrissy
I still feel a little broken from those experiences.
You’re not broken. Experiencing negative experiences is how we learn.
Aldonza says: August 12, 2010 at 12:10 pm @SusanWalsh? You know I dislike it when you use quotes as “evidence”, particularly from blog entries that don’t even include citations to the studies they quote as backup to their assertions.
Aldonza says: August 12, 2010 at 12:12 pm @Average Joe Interesting that you call grudge fucking a “myth” and then explain how you did it yourself.
Jade @ Tasting Grace says: August 12, 2010 at 12:42 pm It’s so strange that Amanda Marcotte puts such a high status on quantifying a “slut”, and pinning it to an exact number whereby if you are one below you’re fine, but one above you’re labeled. This is the problem I have with a lot of feminists I see in the media – they seem to have forgotten some core essential points about feminism. They’ve lost sight of the value of finding freedom to be who you are and be authentic and instead are hell bent on setting up paradigms and ideals and insisting everyone MUST be this way to be “properly liberated”, thus undermining their own liberation.
She seems to be entirely missing your point (or at least what I believe to be your point) that who-gives-a-crap-about-”slut”, what matters is how YOU feel. If you feel good about yourself and feel in your heart you’re doing the right thing, then that’s fabulous. Go for it. If what you’re doing makes you feel badly about yourself, then STOP. It’s not about a number, it’s about the reasons behind an action and whether you can feel proud of yourself the next day. It’s not about what anyone else thinks about you; it’s about how you think about yourself. You’re not “freaking out about women having sex”; you’re watching out for the ones who do it for the wrong reasons and end up hating themselves after. [Meanwhile they seem to be saying "Ignore how you feel" or "you're not feeling the right way about this" - not a very girl-positive or sex-positive position.]